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Yea I want to rearrange your guts but first how was your day? Did you eat?
βYou came to the side of the bed and sat staring at me. Then you kissed meβI felt hot wax on my forehead. I wanted it to leave a mark: that's how I knew I loved you. Because I wanted to be burned, stamped, to have something in the end.β
Louise GlΓΌck, fromΒ βMarathon,β in The Triumph of Achilles. The kiss ~ Henry John Stock
Remember The Blind Side starring Sandra Bullock? The movie showed how a kid who had an extremely rough upbringing got help from the family of a school friend, found success in football and ultimately ended up being adopted by the family. Turns out he was never adopted.
Michael Oher says that he was tricked by the Tuohy family into signing documents that made them his conservators. Since he was already 18 at the time the family told him, βthat it means pretty much the exact same thing as 'adoptive parents,' but that the laws were just written in a way that took [his] age into account.β
Oher also says that papers were signed so that his story and likeness were given away for free to use in The Blind Side. He also never got a single royalty check for the hugely successful, Oscar nominated film in the 14 years since its release.
It just continues to baffle me that they essentially purchased a young Black man's life to make football money off of, like buying a racing horse, except a person. Like, I don't know how else to say it. And then made everyone think it was something wonderful they did to "save" an "impoverished, Black boy", and he's been saying it for years to no avail that they took advantage of him!
It makes perfect sense when you learn how white people have used the black body to their advantage for centuries. This story and film hasn’t sat right with me almost since it came out so I’m not surprised, but I am deeply saddened for Oher's experience of being taken advantage of.
The article gets into this, but the movie's also super fucking gross in how it portrays Oher and his life.
For one thing, it chose to portray him as a slow kid who got into the private high school he graduated from because the Tuohys showed the football coach how, uh, big and athletic he was. In reality, he was a smart kid who impressed the principal of the school by demonstrating academic focus despite his chaotic home life. This change is so straightforwardly racist that I don't even feel the need to elaborate on it.
The movie also decided to make the Tuohys the ones who introduce Oher to football, even though in reality he already knew how to play and was already excelling in the high school's team before ever meeting the Tuohys. This change is honestly fucking bizarre. It's like the Tuohys felt like their white savior fantasy wouldn't be complete unless it was literally complete, totalizing, with themselves directly responsible for every aspect of Oher's success.
Anyway, Oher's taking the Tuohys to court; here's hoping he can finally get what's his. He also has a book out.
My Dearest,
Sometimes words fall short in expressing the emotions that stir within us, and I find myself caught in that very struggle as I pen this letter to you. However, I need you to understand something that goes beyond mere affection or friendship. I'm not sure how significant my voice may be in the grand symphony of life, but please know that my words are filled with sincerity. I love you. Truly, deeply, and unconditionally. My heart swells with a care for you that transcends ordinary boundaries, and I want nothing but the best for you. In times of joy and sorrow, in moments of triumph and defeat, I'm here for you. I'll stand by you through thick and thin, offering my support and encouragement. Your happiness is my joy, your pain is my sorrow, and your dreams are my aspiration. You are a person of remarkable strength and beauty, both inside and out. Your presence in my life has brought a warmth and radiance that I never knew I needed. But now, I find myself drawn to it, cherishing every moment we share. Take care of yourself, my love, for you matter more to me than words can express. Know that my heart beats for you, and my arms are always open, ready to embrace you whenever you need solace, comfort, or simply the touch of someone who cares. With all my heart and soul, I'm yours. You are never alone; not as long as I have breath in my body and love in my heart.
Forever Yours, Ominis Gaunt
thr funniest part of therapy to me is when you first come in and you're exchanging niceties and they say "hello! how are you" and you say "im fine how are you :)" and then 30 seconds later they put on their therapist voice and say "so how are you doing?" and you go well lisa. believe it or not im doing Bad